Is it rude to share your registry on social media?

It depends on your audience and comfort level. Sharing with close friends and family is usually fine, but posting publicly may feel pushy to some. If you're unsure, share privately with the people who ask or who you know want to support you.

What if someone buys something not on your registry?

That's still thoughtful and generous. Thank them just as you would for any gift. You can quietly exchange items if they’re not what you need, but you don't need to mention that. The registry is a guide, not a rule.

Can you have more than one registry?

Technically yes, but it's usually not recommended. Multiple registries can confuse gift givers and make tracking gifts harder. A universal registry like Poppylist lets you add items from any store, so you can keep everything in one place.

Is it okay to update your registry after people have already bought items?

Yes. You can update your registry at any time. Add new items, remove items you no longer need, or adjust quantities. Just keep in mind that people who already purchased won't see those changes unless they check back.

What if no one buys from your registry?

That's okay too. Some people prefer to choose their own gifts, and some may give later or in other ways. You can still use your registry as a personal checklist and many platforms offer a completion discount on remaining items.

Baby Registry Etiquette: Your Questions Answered

Baby registry etiquette basics

Creating a baby registry is a practical way to help friends and family give gifts you'll actually use. But many parents worry about the etiquette — what's okay and what's not?

The good news: most of the “rules” you're worried about aren't actually rules. Here's what you need to know to create and share your registry with confidence.

Is it okay to include expensive items?

Yes, absolutely. Including higher-priced items is perfectly fine. Here's why:

Many registries support group gifting, where multiple people can contribute toward larger items.
Some people prefer to give one meaningful gift rather than several smaller ones.
Family members often want to contribute to big-ticket items like strollers or cribs.
You can always purchase expensive items yourself if no one buys them.

Include a mix of price points so everyone can participate, but don't feel guilty about adding items you genuinely need.

When and how to share your registry

It's okay to share your registry. In fact, most people appreciate the guidance. Here’s when and how:

With baby shower invitations – this is the most common and expected time.
When people ask – if someone asks how they can help, share your registry link.
In a group text or email – sharing with close friends and family is thoughtful, not pushy.
On social media – this can feel more public; use your judgment and comfort level.

You don't have to wait for someone to bring it up. If you're comfortable sharing, it's okay to do so.

Can you have a registry without a shower?

Absolutely. You don't need a baby shower to have a registry. Many parents create registries without a shower because:

Friends and family still want to help and give gifts.
A registry gives them clear guidance on what you actually need.
You can share it when people ask how they can support you.
It helps you stay organized even without a formal event.

There's no rule that says you need a shower to have a registry. Do what works for you.

Is it okay to ask for gift cards or cash?

Yes, it's perfectly acceptable. Many registries now support cash funds or gift cards for:

Diapers and wipes (ongoing expenses).
Experiences (babysitting, meal delivery services).
Big-ticket items you'll purchase later.
General “baby fund” for unexpected needs.

Gift cards and cash funds are practical and appreciated. You’re simply giving people another way to help.

How big should your registry be?

There's no perfect size, but most registries have 30–70 items. Here's what to consider:

Smaller registries (under 20 items): Simple, but some people may feel limited in options.
Mid-sized registries (30–70 items): Give people options without overwhelming them.
Larger registries (100+ items): Can feel busy, but it's not “wrong” — it just needs thoughtful organization.

Focus on quality over quantity. It's better to have 40 items you'll actually use than 100 items that will sit untouched.

Thank you notes and registry etiquette

When someone buys from your registry, it's still kind to:

Send a thank you note – this is appreciated, even if the registry tracks the gift.
Thank them promptly – ideally within a few weeks of receiving the gift.
Be specific – mention the item and how you'll use it.
Skip the price talk – focus on the thought and kindness behind the gift.

Thank you notes are a simple way to show appreciation and nurture relationships.